This archive report was first published on 8 July 2019.
Confessions: Will he really leave her and marry me? ¶
Published on July 8, 2019
A woman has been dating her boyfriend for about a year and recently moved in with him. However, she recently discovered that he has a 7-month-old child with his ex-girlfriend and that he is supporting her financially. The woman is torn between her love for her boyfriend and the fact that he has a child with another woman.
According to her boyfriend, the child was conceived after a one night stand and that the ex-girlfriend trapped him into this. However, the ex-girlfriend has been straight forward with the woman that the child is her boyfriend's and that they are planning to get married. The woman is unsure of what to do if the ex-girlfriend moves in with her boyfriend as she has promised.
Several readers have weighed in on the situation, with some advising the woman to ask her boyfriend to clear the issue once and for all by going for a DNA test. Others have suggested that she should slow down in the relationship and consider moving out until she has a clear perspective of the whole matter.
Relationship counsellor Simon Anyona has also weighed in on the situation, advising the woman to accept the fact that her boyfriend has a child with another woman and to stop wishing on a shooting star that the ex-girlfriend will take her child and bring her to her to take care of her. He also advises her to insist on the truth every step of the way and to have timely communication with her boyfriend on how to take care of the baby.
Another reader, Hilda Boke Mahare, has also shared her thoughts on the situation, advising the woman to slow down in the relationship and to consider moving out until she has a clear perspective of the whole matter. She also advises her to insist on the truth every step of the way and to have timely communication with her boyfriend on how to take care of the baby.
Ultimately, the decision is up to the woman to decide what she wants to do in this situation.
