This archive report was first published on 1 July 2019.
July 1, 2019, was a day many of us dreaded - the day we had to muster up the courage to ask someone out on a date. The fear of rejection, ridicule, or even worse, being ignored, can be overwhelming. But what if we told you that there are ways to make this process less stressful and even increase your chances of getting a positive response?
Traditionally, men have been expected to take the lead in asking women out, but what happens when the man in question seems oblivious to your advances? You've tried flirting, making eye contact, and even going out of your way to get his attention, but nothing seems to work. It's time to take matters into your own hands and try a different approach.
Here are four tips to help you ask him out:
1. Investigate ¶
Before you make your move, do some research. Check his social media profiles to see if there are any signs of a romantic interest. If you see a particular account handle that's always commenting on his posts, it's likely that she's the one he's interested in. But if there's no sign of a 'bae,' you may want to approach the situation with caution.
2. Ask Around ¶
If social media doesn't give you any clues, it's time to ask his friends. But be careful not to ask direct questions like 'Is your friend Mr. Sir single?' Instead, try asking more subtle questions like 'I haven't seen Mr. Sir this week, is his mama peleka-ing him mbio?' The responses you get can give you a good idea of whether he's interested or not.
3. Be His Friend ¶
Another approach is to befriend him and get to know him better. This can take some time, but it's a good way to figure out what he's about and whether he's interested in you. You may even learn some interesting facts about him that can help you decide whether to ask him out or not.
4. Bite the Bullet ¶
And finally, if you're feeling brave, you can just ask him out straight up. This is the quickest and most effective way to get a response, but it can also be the most stressful. So, make sure you have a plan in place, whether he says yes or no.
